Start Here – It’s Time for a Reset

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Welcome to The Overflow Podcast. My name
is Craig Booker. The title of this episode is Start Here –

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It’s Time For A Reset. The material in this
episode is inspired by Reset by Debra Fileta.

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I will talk a lot about mental health, but please
note that this is not a substitute for therapy or

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mental healthcare. It’s a new year, and with it
comes a new beginning for many seeking change

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in some areas of their lives. This change could
be a desire to get out of debt, lose a few extra

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pounds, or improve physical fitness. Whatever
that may be, take a few minutes to reflect and

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write those things down. Put it in your journal or
maybe a note on your phone. Maybe you want to make

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changes that will improve your brain health. You
want to replace negative thinking with positive.

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You want to work on relationships or build a
community of people around you. Perhaps it is

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time to let another person in on your struggles.
The New Year might be a time to work towards the

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career you have always dreamed of. We all have
areas of our lives that we want to improve. The

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problem, according to Debra Fileta, is that we
go about this change all wrong. We may start

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getting up early each morning, going to the gym, or
seeing a counselor. All of these are good places to

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start, but within a few weeks, we find ourselves
slipping back into our old ways. In the first

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chapter of Reset Debra Fileta encourages readers
to consider the apostle Paul in Romans chapter 7, verse

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15 of the NKJV Paul says, “I do not understand what
I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I

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hate I do,” end quote. We are all creatures of habit
which often means we return to old, unhealthy ways

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of living. Debra says that if we look at this
verse, we see a key phrase, “I do not understand

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what I do.” Whoa! Paul the author of a good part of
the New Testament makes a bold confession here he

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doesn’t understand his own ways I’m not sure
about you, but I relate to Paul’s statement a

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lot! Many times, I simply do not understand my own
ways. Why does this matter? Debra says, “…when we

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don’t understand why we do what we do, we’ll find
ourselves doing the same things again and again.

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Understanding why we do what we do, learning to
dig a little deeper, is paramount to changing our

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behavior. There’s no way around it,” end quote. That
is huge! A big lesson here is that it is important

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for us to understand why we do what we do. Debra
goes on to say, “…the people who end up having the

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most success and their attempts to change and grow
are the ones who have an awareness of what’s going

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on deep down inside underneath the surface,” end
quote. Breaking free from old unhealthy habits

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starts with understanding our behaviors and the
patterns we continued going back to in Chapter 1

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Deborah tells a funny story about a car she owned
years ago in college, the car had several problems

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and when Debra took it to the mechanic, she
found out it wasn’t a lemon, as she had assumed

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a few months prior, a friend of Debra’s had
installed her car stereo. And this friend had

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mistakenly crossed some wires in the process
of installing the stereo, which led to a host

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of other issues, maybe you can relate to the story
of Debra’s. You keep trying to change something in

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your life, but you find yourselves going back
to those unhealthy patterns. Sometimes it can

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feel like there is something seriously wrong with
you. Have you ever stopped to consider whether you

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have some wires crossed underneath the surface?
There are times when we develop unhealthy or

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untrue beliefs about ourselves, the world, or others
Debra gives us a pattern thoughts, lead to feelings,

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which leads to behaviors. About halfway through this
chapter Deborah drops a huge life-changing truth

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I’ll repeat it again: our thoughts lead
to feelings which lead to behaviors. If you have

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ever done any gardening, you know that to get rid
of a weed, you need to pull out the roots, and all.

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If you fail to do so, the weed will pop right
back up again. This same principle applies to

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human behavior. If we fail to get to the root of
what we are trying to change, we’ll find ourselves

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returning to the same old unhealthy patterns.
Debra says, “What’s happening in your mind is so

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key to the process of transformation and change,
and knowledge of it (or lack thereof) ultimately

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leads to why some people succeed and others
fail” end quote. So this is huge! It tells us

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that our thoughts matter! If we want to see change,
we need to understand why we do certain things. We

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need to take hold of our thoughts. Third, we need to
understand our feelings. If we do this, we can have

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a real shot at making lasting changes. It’s time
for reset. As we explore the chapters of Reset, we

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are going to take a look underneath the surface
Deborah Fileta will lead us on a journey toward in

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her words, “owning our thoughts, understanding our
feelings, and changing our behaviors” end quote.

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if you’re like me, you’re tired of doing things
the same old way and expecting different results.

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it’s time for a reset. Debra cautions readers
that these changes will require ongoing effort.

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The practices she will teach us in the chapters
ahead will involve a lot more than mere external

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behaviors, these changes are much deeper and
will require more from you and me. I hope you

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will tune in to future episodes to learn more more
about what Debra has to say about why we do the

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things we do and how we can change our behavior
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