Stagnation Through Behavior Modification

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Hello and welcome to The Overflow Podcast. My name
is Craig Booker. The title of this episode is

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Stagnation Through Behavior Modification. A
lot of the material for this week’s episode

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was inspired by Craig Groeschel’s book The Power
to Change – Mastering the Habits That Matter Most.

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Note: I will talk a lot about mental health, but
please note this is not a substitute for therapy

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or mental health care. I am not a counselor or
a physician if you need help with mental health

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challenges please find a qualified mental
health professional title of this episode

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is stagnation through behavior modification in
last episode we discussed why you do what you do

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in this episode we will talk about stagnation
through behavior modification Craig Rochelle

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says that behaviors never exist in a vacuum the
behaviors that show up in our daily lives have

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deeper Roots if you try to change your behavior
without changing your identity you’ll pull you’re

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pulling up a weed without getting to the root to
ensure a weed that doesn’t come back you have to

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reach down and pull out what is not visible
motivation and willpower are both limited

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resources you will quickly deplete behavior
modification does not equip you with the power to

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change so James Clear author of atomic habits says
it’s hard to change your habit if you never change

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the underlying belief that led you to your past
Behavior so in this section one of the theories

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that they discuss is called cybernetics Theory
and it talks about different orders or levels

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of changes and so the first one is first order
changes which would be behavior modification

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a second ordered change would be changing the way
you think Romans 12 2 of the NLT says don’t copy

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the behavior and customs of this world but let God
transform you into a new person by changing the

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way you think then you’ll learn to know God’s will
for you which is good and pleasing and perfect

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preggo shell says to change what you do you need
you need first to change what you think of you so

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we have an exercise and it says if we look at
our start and stop behaviors from a few weeks

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ago write down the ways you have failed to change
these behaviors in the past so in past episodes we

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discussed what are called start and stop behaviors
and you know these are behaviors we wish to start

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and ones that we believe we need to stop to become
the person we are created to be so this is saying

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if we look at our start and stop behaviors from a
few weeks ago write down the ways you have failed

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to change these behaviors in the past so evidently
you’ve probably tried to change these behaviors at

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some point and this is having you write down a
list of why you think you failed at this uh next

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it says consider how your past efforts were like
pulling a weed up without getting at the root and

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so we have to come to understand how we go about
change matters the way we have been approaching

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change isn’t working we must change the way we
think about ourselves uh in the workbook for the

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power to change uh there are a few quotes that I
would like to read and it says for as he thinks

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within himself so he is that’s verse 23 7 of The
New American Standard Bible in other words the

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thoughts running through your mind shape your
perspective and attitude about who you think

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you are based on your life events interaction
with others and most importantly your responses

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especially internally you form a story that you
tell yourself when you’re locked in on seeing

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and thinking certain ways you lose sight of who
you really are because or before you can embrace

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the truth of who God says you are you can make the
process Easier by identifying your false identity

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beliefs and the uh you can make the process Easier
by identifying your false identity beliefs and the

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ways they have undermined your previous plans
have changed think of it as cleaning out the

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old false self beliefs in order to make room
for what is true exercise is one two and three

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and the power to change are a helpful start for
growing in self-awareness but if you want to go

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deeper it is important to understand how your
toxic self-hot your toxic self thoughts were

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planted how they’ve been reinforced and taken
root and how they bloomed into false beliefs

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about your identity with this as your goal it’s
time to do some thought weeding all right second

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Corinthians 10 3-5 and the NLT says we are human
but we don’t wage war as humans do we use God’s

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Mighty weapons not worldly weapons to knock down
the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy

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false arguments we destroy every proud obstacle
that keeps people from knowing god we capture the

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rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ
so we have this idea of a thought Journal it says

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jot down any thoughts that negatively impact the
way you see yourself there’s no right or wrong

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way to do it as long as you’re able to record
thoughts that prevent you from seeing yourself

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the way God sees you start in the morning when
you wake up and check in with yourself go beyond

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how you’re feeling and any expectations for that
day instead notice what you’re telling yourself

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about yourself record the time and any details
related to your false thinking for instance you

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might know Tuesday 8 45 a.m just spilled coffee
on my shirt while getting in my car thought I’m

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so clumsy I never do anything right or Friday
10 22 a.m in the break room after team meeting

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thought my co-workers think I’m overweight so
I might as well have another Donut for now we

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are just trying to record your thoughts along
with the time and circumstances around them

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we’ll come back to this later that’s all for
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