Discipline Is Not A Dirty Word

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hello and welcome to the Overflow podcast
my name is Craig Booker the title of this

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episode is discipline is not a dirty
word again a lot of this material is

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from Pastor Craig Rochelle’s book the power to
change mastering the habits that matter most

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so we’re going through as you know we’re
going through Pastor Craig Rochelle’s book

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on the power to change the title is discipline
is not a dirty word the opening quote discipline

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is choosing what you want most over what you
want now and that’s from Craig groeschel uh a

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recap from last week we discussed training versus
trying trying doesn’t work training does trying

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is an attempt to do the right thing by exerting
effort in the moment training is a commitment to

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strategic habits you do before the moment that
equip you to do the right thing in the moment so

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that is a summary of last week in order to embrace
training versus trying it will require discipline

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depending on your interpretation your experiences
growing up as a child you will probably know that

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discipline is painful it’s not something that
we typically are really excited about at least

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I’m not I don’t hear the word discipline and get
real excited and here’s a verse in Hebrews 12 11

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from the New Living Translation that says no
discipline is enjoyable while it’s happening

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it’s painful full but afterwards there will be
a peaceful Harvest of right living for those who

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are trained in this way so here it is in Hebrews
that it is telling us that discipline is painful

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so you may think depending on you know your
upbringing and what your experiences were growing

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up discipline might have meant making your bed it
might have been doing chores every day or every

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week getting to school on time definitely takes
discipline when you’re a kid another quote from

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Craig Rochelle it says you’re going to experience
pain discipline may feel painful but if you don’t

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live a disciplined life you will experience the
pain of regret Pastor Craig goes on to say not

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choosing what you want now feels painful but
if you do choose what you want now you will

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later experience the pain of not having what you
want most so it kind of Compares and contrasts

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you know having what you want now versus having
what you want most in your life uh and so I titled

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this section choose your pain you’re either
going to have the pain of discipline the pain

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of not getting what you want now or you’re gonna
have the pain of regret not having what you want

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most so these are two types of pain that we’re
all going to experience in our life it’s just

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a matter of do you want what you want now or do
you want to experience the regret of not getting

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what you want most in your life another quote from
Craig Rochelle is desire alone won’t get you what

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you want most but discipline will you know you
might say but I’m not a disciplined person you

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know if you look at your life and you’re thinking
about your own self you may think I’m just not

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disciplined you know what am I going to do you
say that I’m going to need discipline but I’m

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not a disciplined person so you’re asking me to
be something I’m not and I understand this this

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thought process because you know reading through
this material going over it you know I’m thinking

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much the same thing right yeah I don’t really
feel like much of a disciplined person and so

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I I really understand that feeling if you’re
struggling with that but the truth is that

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it’s just not true that you’re not disciplined
when most people consider whether or not they

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are disciplined they tend to focus on the areas of
their lives where they lack discipline so they’re

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looking at the worst parts of their life where
maybe they want to improve things and that’s what

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they’re focusing on so I ask the question how
do I know this this is me I tend when I think

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about me being a disciplined person I see all the
areas I want to change yet have failed to be do so

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and I’d bet you do something similar we tend to
focus on the areas we fall short on and I think

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that’s just in kind of in our nature when we’re
thinking about that subject but the truth is is

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that you are disciplined just let that sink in
you are disciplined I am disciplined in his book

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Pastor Craig says think of discipline as choosing
to do what’s important to you so think of this one

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as choosing to do what’s important to you you
repeatedly do some things that are important to

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you you eat you sleep those are disciplines but
that was in the quote there’s a good chance you

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also do certain disciplines that aren’t good for
you these are discipline these disciplines are not

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helping you and could be hurting you so we’re
going through this material and we’re kind of

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reframing what discipline is and helping us re-see
that we all have areas where we are disciplined

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if you look at areas of your life where you find
success you will find discipline in his examples

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he was talking about you know eating and sleeping
now you know we may not be very good initially at

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getting good quality sleep but we have still have
disciplines that we go to bed relatively at the

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same time every night we eat at you know close
to the same times for meals every day so those

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are disciplines so we have to kind of rethink
how we how we’re looking at discipline and see

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the areas where we have discipline in our life
because it helps us to see that we are disciplined

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people and we can you know become disciplined in
other areas there’s a good chance that you also

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have certain disciplines that aren’t good for
you and these disciplines are not helping you

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and could be hurting you some examples of these
are maybe overeating when you’re stressed maybe

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you’re you’re binging hours of TV like you’re
watching hours on end of TV when you really

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desire relationships with other people you know
maybe you’re you’re ruminating on all the worst

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case scenarios when you’re stressed out you’re
thinking of all the bad things that could happen

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the behavior is just filling you with anxiety
uh maybe you’re you’re checking your doors your

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locks multiple times before you go to bed just to
make sure you’re safe these are also disciplines

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all of these things they’re they’re not really
positive disciplines but they are disciplines

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uh another quote from Craig Rochelle your desires
don’t determine who you become your disciplines

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do so I put a note in here about my examples
I certainly have been guilty of those last

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two examples right we’re talking about mental
health and we’re looking at how this material

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and the power to change applies to mental health
and I have been guilty of those last two examples

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you know that that is a part of my anxiety and
that that is not not a positive discipline that

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I’ve had but I you know I want to acknowledge
that I know how difficult it is to stop those

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particular disciplines um I’m not trying to shame
anyone or make anyone feel bad for those I listed

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those because those were something that I related
to that was a discipline that was not helping me

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and I know there’s a lot of things that go behind
all of those examples and I’m not trying to make

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anyone feel bad for them I’m just trying to point
out that those are disciplines that it’s possible

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to change those disciplines so I just want to
qualify those I want to help people see that those

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behaviors those are disciplines just that aren’t
helping us you know the more that I rethink the

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way I view discipline the less it’s a negative
thing for me and I hope it will be for other

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people too and I hope these examples will help
you see discipline in a better light towards the

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end of this chapter Pastor Craig has an exercise
right and we’re just going to go over the high

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points of this in in your own time in your week
you know if you choose you can go through this

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exercise on your own I’m happy to field any kind
of emails if you have questions or want to share

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the results of going through this exercise yeah
we’re talking about discipline and recognizing

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the disciplines we already have in our lives
whether they’re positive or negative maybe

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places we’re already finding success because
we have disciplines already set up and so this

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exercise says Identify the top three areas in your
life where you feel you lack discipline okay so

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this first one is looking at places or the top
three places that you lack discipline and then

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the second part is next identify the top three
areas in your life where you exhibit the most

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discipline two different questions basically one
where you’re lacking three areas where you feel

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like you lack discipline on the other hand the
second one is areas where you feel like you are

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showing discipline where you’re being successful
in the parts of your life where you’re choosing

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what you want now over what you want most write
down your reasons for why you may be putting off

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the pain of discipline and risking the pain of
regret here are some example tools they provided

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in the book it says I’m just too tired to be
consistent in discipline my kids uh second one

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was I’m healthy right now so I have time to start
working out down the road so those were examples

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of areas where maybe they’re lacking discipline
and then their reasoning behind it right why they

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think they’re they’re choosing what they want now
over what they want most in the areas where you

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believe you lack discipline what is the biggest
positive change that could come if you choose some

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pain today over putting it off until tomorrow so
that’s the exercise I hope you guys will take time

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this week and go through that hopefully that’ll
provide some insight for you into establishing

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um some new positive disciplines in areas where
you feel like you’re just lacking you’re coming

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up short the principle for this section of
the book is this one is choosing what you want

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most over what you want now the path the public
success is always paved with private discipline

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again this is from Pastor Craig’s book it says
the path to public success is always paved with

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private discipline the Hebrews 12 11 in the New
Living Translation says no discipline is enjoyable

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while it’s happening it’s painful but afterward
there will be a peaceful Harvest of right living

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for those who are trained in this way that’s all
for this episode thank you for watching if you

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