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welcome to the Overflow podcast my name is Craig
Booker the title of this episode is the deep end

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the material in this episode is inspired by
reset by Deborah feda I will talk a lot about

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mental health but please note that this is not
a substitute for therapy or mental health care

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when it comes to emotional interactions and
discussions we all have different abilities

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some people won’t go near emotional topics
While others seem to gravitate towards them in

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her book reset Deborah feta talks about using
the concept of levels of conversation to help

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illustrate emotional interaction and expression
she defines three levels of conversation number

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one is facts two is opinions and ideas three
is feelings so number one facts first level

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superficial easy to talk about number two is
opinions and ideas these take you deep but keep

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you close to the shallow end and number three is
feelings these are the deepest most vulnerable

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Parts when it comes to a conversation just like
swimming in a swimming pool we’ve got to practice

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going deep with our emotions to get better at
feeling understanding and expressing them it’s

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not something you’re born knowing how to do it’s
something you have to learn along the way Deborah

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Fela the Deep Bend exploring feelings going deep
is more difficult for some than others it often

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depends on a person’s experience first off uh
you could have been brought up in an environment

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where feelings weren’t welcome so you learned
to stuff your emotions maybe showing emotions

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was portrayed as weak uh second perhaps you
were exposed to deep trauma abuse dysfunction

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or violence if we don’t take the time to check
in with how we’re feeling those emotions will

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eventually bubble up to the surface Proverbs
20: 5 says the purposes of a person’s heart

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are deep Waters but one who has Insight draws
them out while it can be incredibly difficult

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to do the work and explore emotions it is
essential for us to learn to face them and

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deal with them so we can properly heal this is
what being a person of insight is all about we

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need to take the time and do the work so we
know what is going on deep inside ourselves

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Deborah says that we need to say goodbye to the
floaties and the shallow in because we’re about

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to learn how to swim verse for reflection the
purposes of a person’s heart are deep Waters

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but one who has Insight draws them out Proverbs
20:5 that’s all for this episode if you like the

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