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Hello and welcome to The Overflow Podcast. My name
is Craig Booker. The title of this episode
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is From So To Who. A lot of the material for this
week’s episode was inspired by Craig Groeschel’s
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book The Power to Change, Mastering the Habits
That Matter Most. Note: I will talk a lot about
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mental health, but please note this is not a
substitute for therapy or mental health care
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I am not a counselor or a physician. If you need
help with mental health challenges, please find a
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qualified mental health professional. The title
of this episode is From So To Who. Last week we
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discussed how to stop before you flop we’re
talking about how to stop bad habits and that
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was a follow-up to starting new habits and so this
week we are the title is from so to who all right
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so in this section of the book Craig Rochelle
is talking about goals and he talked about
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this realization that he came to he realized
he had been practicing I believe he called
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it productivity or something of that nature for
like 20 or 30 years he realized he had a problem
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with the way that he was approaching things he
realized that he was making goals that were really
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not benefiting him initially but far out into the
future his goals were a means to an end how do you
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know if your goal is a means goal he says on the
other side of the goal is a so for example I want
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to get good grades so I can get or so I can go to
a good college so I can get a good job and so I
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can make lots of money so his goals were these so
goals doing something so he can do something else
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so he can do something else the other example is
I want to lose weight so I can look better in my
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clothes and I can attract someone decent to date
and so I can get married Greg Rochelle says if
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there’s a so on the other side we’re training
ourselves to defer contentment to the Future
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instead said we need goals and habits that lead
to an end when becoming more like Jesus is the
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driving force of your life success is no longer
out there somewhere as followers of Jesus we want
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goals that are not about what we are getting or
what we are doing but about who we are becoming
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not getting not doing but becoming so this goes
back to our who not do if you remember uh we’ve
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discussed you know our goals need to support
who we are trying to become or who we feel
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called to become not just something one we want
to achieve so this is along those same lines so
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it says that’s the thing about our habits
we think of them as actions but they are
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way more than that because our habits Define
our identities so he’s taking goals from just
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something what we want to achieve or doing a goal
so that we can do something else so that we can
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do something else to it becoming it’s a part of
our identity who we are the examples here are I
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I start a new habit of eating right why because
I am becoming more like Jesus and when I eat
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right I am honoring God by being a temple of
the Holy Spirit the verse referenced here is
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First Corinthians 6 19-20 and then the second one
was I start a new habit of waking up earlier why
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because I want to create time to read my Bible why
because I am becoming more like Jesus and reading
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the Bible renews my mind so I can take my thoughts
captive and make them obedient to Christ the verse
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reference here is second Corinthians 10 5. third
I stop an old habit of looking at porn why because
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I am becoming more like Jesus when I don’t lust
after images I can live a Pure Life of Integrity
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Colossians 3 5-7 quote it from Craig Rochelle if
you want to change who you’re becoming change your
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habits another quote the Small Things no one sees
can lead to the big results every everyone wants
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success happens not by accident but by habits if
success happens by habits what habit do you need
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to start what habit do you need to stop so you
can become more like Jesus as Christ followers our
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goal our ultimate win our true Mark of success
is becoming more like him so you can see this
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progression we’re we’re not doing this so we can
do something else we are doing this because it
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makes us more like Christ we are doing this more
because it makes us into the person we are trying
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to become our who this week we have an exercise
and it says to close out this section consider
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how you may have made your goals means goals or so
goals use this pattern to change your current and
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future goals from means goals to end goals okay so
in this exercise we are looking at maybe habits or
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goals that we’ve started or written down that we
want to accomplish and we’re looking at them to
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make sure that they’re not the so type of goals
we want to make sure they’re in line with who we
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want to become or if we’re working to become more
like Jesus the outline shows my means or so goal
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I want to blank so I can blank so I can blank so
I can blank my end goal would be I want to start a
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new habit of blank why because I am becoming more
like Jesus and when I blank I am or I can blank
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these are just ideas for like a format to help you
restructure those goals or kind of reflect on the
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goals that you have or the habits you’re trying
to start making sure they’re more in line with who
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you want to become whether that is the person God
has called you to be or if that’s becoming more
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like Jesus so if that is an exercise as always
I encourage you to do that during your week is
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to look at the habits that you started look at the
goals that you have and and just put them through
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this process and see if they’re a goal so that
you can do something else or if they’re so you can
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become the person you’re called to be all right
so the principle for this section is success is
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becoming more like Jesus the scripture for this
section is Philippians 3 8 from the New Living
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Translation yes everything else is worthless when
compared with the infinite value of knowing Christ
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Jesus my Lord this section is rather short which
is fine allows us plenty of time to discuss where
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we are personally in this process to you know
apply this section to what we’re already doing
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um and see if it changes anything that
we’re doing if I were to try to apply
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this to some of the things I’m working on
I have habits or goals that I’m working on
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related to my sleep and also to my physical
health like what I’m right now it’s what I’m
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eating if I were to phrase those goals as the
so goals or like he calls them means goals
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I would I would maybe put it I’m trying to get
better sleep so that I can have lower anxiety or
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I’m trying to eat better so that I can lose
weight so that I get better sleep so that
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I lower my anxiety you see how that’s a a so or a
a mean skulls like a means to an end uh and then
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if I wanted to reword these and and make them into
an end goal I would I would maybe say I want to
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start eating better because when I eat better it
allows me to live out who God has called me to be
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that’s making a shift from so that goals to uh an
end goal and so I’m not delaying the gratification
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the way out in the future I’m shifting at
my focus and I’m becoming a different person
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but that that’s kind of my interpretation of this
section is changing those goals so they more in
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line with who we’re trying to become that’s all
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