Embracing Concern Rejecting Worry

Embracing Concern Rejecting Worry

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Hello and welcome to the Overflow podcast. My
name is Craig Booker. The title of this episode

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is embracing concern rejecting worry the material
in this episode is inspired by winning the war

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on worry by Louis Giglio note I will talk a lot
about mental health but please note this is not

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a substitute for therapy or mental health care
I am not a counselor or a physician if you need

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help with mental health challenges please find
a qualified mental health professional the title

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of this episode is embracing concern rejecting
worry all right so last episode we talked about

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the anatomy of worry we were talking about the
five major themes of worry in this episode we were

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talking about like how do we plan and and Steward
our time and resources without kind of falling

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into the Trap of worry so in this section or this
chapter Louie opens by telling a story about about

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his wife Shelly and so he starts off telling this
story about how Shelly his wife is what he calls

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an A to Z or a to zed uh person uh while he is
an A to B type personality and so what that means

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is is she is really good with all of the details
from the very beginning to the very end you know

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if if they have a project that they’re working
on in this ministry you know she’s really good

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at starting it going through all the details and
and making sure everything’s accomplished from

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beginning to end where he is the type that has
is gifted with being able to have a vision for

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something and maybe getting started or maybe
getting a little past getting started but then

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he is on to thinking about New Visions and new
things to accomplish and so he goes about telling

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about his wife and how he loves his wife very
dearly and appreciates all that she’s done for

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him and blessed him uh but also how you know she
is just a different personality type than him um

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and then he kind of transitions to talking about
how both personality types there uh the person

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that has you know very high level view um that’s
a big Vision person and how a person that deals

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with all the details how they’re all susceptible
to worry and so he starts out talking he says he

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says we learned in the previous chapter about the
anatomy of worry and how the different themes of

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worry are connected to the same thread of control
and while we determine that our ability to control

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Our Lives is an illusion we still need to address
the question of how we can reject control and fear

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while still accounting for planning preparation
and concern he goes on to say God calls you to

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Steward what you have in your hands he gives
you decision-making authority over what he

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has entrusted to you in Matthew 25 Jesus tells
the parable about a master who goes away for an

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extended period of time and the master entrusts a
considerable about of money to his three servants

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and most of you probably if you’re familiar
with the story it is you know talking about

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the talents the story of the talents and that’s
what this story is and so the first servant he

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gives five talents uh and this is the equivalent
of about a hundred years worth of wages so it’s a

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lot of money so a lot of people when they see the
number five as in five talents they’re like that’s

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not very much but it’s actually translates to a
lot of money so the first servant he gave five

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talents and then the second servant he gives two
which still a lot of money uh and then the third

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he gives one talent and so you know you have these
three servants he talks about and he talks about

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what each of the Ser servants did with the money
and the return that they brought with that money

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um and how the third servant you know knowing how
demanding uh the master was he basically hid his

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money in the ground uh to ensure sure that he
was able to return the same money to his master

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uh and uh the master was very um disappointed in
him you know basically he should have put this

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money at least in the bank and earned some
interest but because of his fear he didn’t

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and you know the others the other two were able
to bring a return for the money that the master

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gave them and uh Louie goes on to say that the
master gave talents the money according to their

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ability and so that’s a a key point in in this
story and we’ll we’ll get into that a little bit

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in the future uh then he goes on to talking about
learning to plan without practicing worry because

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I think that’s where a lot of us start out with
is we have concern about whatever it is that is

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on our mind and we think that it’s logical for
us to be prepared uh to be good stewards of our

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resources and so this is the starting point for a
lot of us is a a good place and so he talks about

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defining some of these terms and he talks about
planning and he says planning is a constructive

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and tangible process where steps and actions
are linked together for future outcomes uh Louie

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goes on to say while planning uh while planning
contingencies are always in place for unexpect

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unexpected events or delays but these contingency
plans do not impede our ability to move towards

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to move towards the next step with confidence he
says in other words planning is about leveraging

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gifts and resources around what is in your hand at
this moment and moving it Forward step by step he

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says if planning is a constructive and tangible
process worry is the projection of an endless

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stirring of wha if scenarios that absorbs all
present effort uh and he says uh what you could

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or absorb all present effort what you could be
doing with what is currently in your hands this

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string of what ifs is of what ifs often brings
fear and paralysis that keeps us from our next

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steps uh he goes on to say planning focuses on
the present and on what is in your hands while

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occasionally looking ahead to factoring in to
factor in what is to come worry fixates on the

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future while occasionally circling back to he put
in quotes work on what is currently in front of

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you all right so it says that it’s talking about
the third servant he says the third servant in

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the story of the talents got paralyzed by the
wha ifs uh he lists off lists off a bunch like

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what if I lose the money what if I’m not capable
what if the other servants out earn me what if I

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get sick or injured what if something big happen
happens to all the livestock in my town and I’m

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caught up in financial ruin what if I fail
what if I lose my job my family my home so

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this third servant had all these questions running
through his mind all right so Louie says scripture

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actually says he was afraid uh according to
Matthew 25:25 uh isn’t it interesting that

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the result to getting caught in the web of what
ifs is Fe remember how I mentioned that worry is

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rooted in fear in this Parable we see Jesus
showing us that connection so it says while

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the first two servants were were concerned and
practice good planning this servant got stuck in

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a stream of worry and once he got stuck into the
stream he eventually got stuck into the whirlpool

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of self-doubt boy have have you ever been there
I’ve been there like it’s kind of like you kind

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of go down a rabbit hole hole and then you can’t
get out like we’ve covered earlier every so often

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when you’re building a plan you need to look ahead
but you can’t live there you can’t fixate so much

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on the ideas of tomorrow that you cease living
in the realities of today so I I want to add a

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little bit there because I think I’ve mentioned
before that you know part of my struggle has been

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that I always try to be prepared for situations
that’s part of my personality it’s not you know

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necessarily just part of anxiety that’s how I am
as I try to be prepared uh but you know when I’m

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anxious when I’m fearful I tend to go a little bit
overboard especially when we’re you know maybe my

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family’s going on vacation I feel like I have to
over prepare to compensate for a bunch of what

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F scenarios and some of that is logical so some
of that is good you want to be prepared for your

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vacation and not have to buy things when you’re
there because it costs you more money if you can

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adequately pack them for your travel but what I
would tend to do was spend more time trying to

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prepare than actually living and so that’s what
this point is really I think hitting on here is

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when we fixate so much on the ideas of tomorrow
that you cease living in the realities of today

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so there’s just this Tipping Point of of being
adequately prepared versus going overboard where

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it’s kind of ruining and running your life and
there’s he’s talking about this study he says

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according to psych Psychology today in a small
study done at Penn State University scientists and

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doctors set out to expose a group of volunteers to
as many possible stress points as was feasible in

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a a 10day window then they observed if they
observed if those stress points or what ifs

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actually came to pass it says after 30 days of
observation the team conducting the study notes

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that 91% of worries did not materialize says yes
91% big exclamation point question mark right he

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says what what’s most important is what is in our
hands right now what we are tangibly carrying and

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I think that’s a good statement to help ground
us when we’re struggling with fear anxiety being

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prepared uh is what we are carrying in our hands
today like right now and he goes on to talk about

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practical steps to plan well it says how can you
plan without tipping over into worry here are a

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few steps and he goes into these in the book he
goes into quite a bit more detailed than this

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but I’m just going to give a high level view uh
because I think these really capture the essence

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of it he says do what is in your hands to do today
and he references Colossians 3:23 uh second he

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says don’t pick up any not yet realized challenges
until necessary Matthew 6:34 third recognize that

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the master is returning and stay prepared Luke 124
it says 42-42 but I must have a typo there he goes

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on to say planning well and steering clear from
your worry means that we embrace the mentality of

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I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it you know
if you’re anything like me uh like when your mind

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is kind of racing and circling around trying to
be prepared for something uh you’re thinking about

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all these different scenarios and this mentality
of I’ll cross the bridge when I get there I think

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is meant to really free you up of you know there’s
nothing substantial or beneficial for for me to do

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today about this issue that I’ll I’ll deal with
it when it comes to me you know I’ll cross the

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bridge when it get when I get there he asked the
question um what if what’s in my hand is too much

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for me to carry and I think this is a really
legitimate concern because a lot of times we

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feel very overwhelmed I think there’s this large
debate of well God will not give you more than you

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can you can bear and you know there’s scripture
around that you know there’s also this idea of

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bringing God into our worry and that’s actually
another chapter is bringing God into our worry

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I think it’s the next chapter so he goes into
detail about and he says in Matthew 25:15 Jesus

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said to one he gave five two I guess that’s
right to one he gave five talents to another

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two and to another one to each according to his
own ability uh that was the nkjv so remember I

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said earlier that we’d come back to this uh this
idea and earlier I said in the story that he gave

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speaking of the master he gave talents according
to their ability here we’re circling back to

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that and he he’s quoting scripture in Matthew
25:15 about he gave according to their own

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ability he says God puts things into your hands
according to your ability and his power to work

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in and through you if he if he’s entrusted it
to you you can carry it now my addition to that

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is you may have to depend on him to carry it
but you can still carry it it may be too much

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without you your dependence on him uh but that
should tell us something is we’re not meant to

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carry something without him without depending
on him all right so we have discussion what has

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God placed in your hands today take some time to
thank God for what he has graciously graciously

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given to you two identify a time in your life
when your planning turned into worry looking

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back was there a Tipping Point you can recognize
now third it says read James 4:13-17 how can you

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cultivate a spirit of if it is the Lord’s will
if you were to stop overthinking your plans what

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would that free you up to do more of today that’s
all for this episode thank you for watching if you

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Show Notes

Louie opens by telling a story about how his wife Shelly is an A-Z person while he is an A-B type personality.

He deeply loves and appreciates his wife.

But both personality types are susceptible to worry.

“We learned in the previous chapter about the anatomy of worry and how the different themes of worry are connected by the same thread: control. And while we determined that our ability to control our lives is an illusion, we still need to address the question of how we can reject control and fear while still accounting for planning, preparation, and concern.” [1]

“God calls you to steward what you have in your hands.
He gives you decision-making authority over what He has entrusted to you.” [1]

“Matthew 25 – Jesus tells the parable about a master who goes away for an extended period of time. This master entrusts a considerable amount of money to his three servants.” [1]

1st Servant – 5 talents or 100 years’ worth of wages.
2nd Servant – 2 talents
3rd Servant – 1 talent

“He gave talents according to their ability.” [1]

Learning to Plan Without Practicing Worry

“Planning: Planning is a constructive and tangible process where steps and actions are linked together for future outcomes.” [1]

“While planning, contingencies are always in place for unexpected events or delays. But these contingency plans do not impede our ability to move toward the next step with confidence.” [1]

“In other words, planning is about leveraging your gifts and resources around what is in your hand at this moment, and moving it forward, step by step.” [1]

“If planning is a constructive and tangible process, worry is the projection of an endless string of what-if scenarios that absorbs all present effort (what you could be doing with what is currently in your hands). This string of what ifs often brings fear and paralysis that keeps us from our next steps.” [1]

“Planning focuses on the present and on what is in your hands, while occasionally looking ahead to factor in what is to come. Worry fixates on the future, while occasionally circling back to “work” on what is currently in front of you.” [1]

“The third servant in the story of the talents got paralyzed by the what ifs.” [1]

What if I lose the money?
What if I’m not capable?
What if the other servants outearn me?
What if I get sick or injured?
What if something big happens to all the livestock in my town and I’m caught up in financial ruin?
What if I fail?
What if I lose my job?
My family?
My home?

“Scripture actually says he was “afraid” (Matthew 25:25).
Isn’t it interesting that the result of getting caught in the web of what ifs is fear? Remember how I mentioned that worry is rooted in fear? In this parable we see Jesus showing
us that connection.” [1]

“While the first two servants were concerned and practiced good planning, this servant got stuck in a stream of worry. And once he got into the stream, he eventually got stuck in the whirlpool of self-doubt.” [1]

“Like we covered earlier, every so often when you’re building a plan, you need to look ahead. But you can’t live there. You can’t fixate so much on the ideas of tomorrow that you cease living in the realities of today.” [1]

“According to Psychology Today, in a small study done at Penn State University, scientists and doctors set out to expose a group of volunteers to as many possible stress-points as was feasible in a ten-day window. Then they observed if those stress-points, or what ifs, actually came to pass.

After thirty days of observation, the team conducting the study noted that 91 percent of worries did not materialize. Yes, 91 percent!?” [1]

“…what’s most important is what is in our hands right now-what we are tangibly carrying.” [1]

Practical Steps To Plan Well [1]

“how can you plan without tipping over into worry?” [1]

Here are a few steps.

    • Do what is in your hands to do today. Colossians 3:23

    • Don’t pick up any not-yet-realized challenges until necessary. Matthew 6:34

    • Recognize that the Master is returning and stay prepared. Luke 12:42-43

“Planning well and steering clear from worry means that we embrace the mentality of I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it.” [1]

“What if what’s in my hands is too much for me to carry?” [1]

“In Matthew 25:15 Jesus said, “To one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one, to each according to his own ability” (NKJV).

“God puts things into your hands according to your ability and His power to work in and through you. If Hes entrusted it to you, you can carry it.” [1]

Discussion:1

    1. What has God placed in your hands today? Take some time to thank God for what He has graciously given to you.

    1. Identify a time in your life when your planning turned into worry. Looking back, was there a tipping point you can recognize now?

    1. Read James 4:13-17. How can you cultivate a spirit of “if it is the Lord’s will” (v. 15)?

    1. If you were to stop overthinking your plans, what would that free you up to do more of today?

Sources

[1] Giglio, L. (2022). Winning the War On Worry – Cultivate a Peaceful Heart and a Confident Mind. Thomas Nelson.

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