How we tell our story has a lot to do with how we live it out. Whether speaking of a recent victory or a moment of loss, the words we use and what we focus on matter. There’s a particular season of my life I’d like to forget sometimes. One thing I am learning is how to shift my story by changing how I tell that story.
Let’s review how I’ve told this story in the past and contrast that version with a new perspective.
Perspective 1
The year 2002 marked the beginning of one of the worst seasons of my life. That year and the three to four years to follow were some of the most grueling years of my life. In 2002, I was laid off from one of the best jobs I have ever had. This began a seemingly endless job search where, time after time, I started and ended multiple jobs. It was the perfect breeding ground for life-altering trauma.
Perspective 2
The year 2002 marked the beginning of one of the most challenging seasons of my life. That year and the three to four years to follow were some of the most character-forming years of my life. I truly learned to depend on God as stability was lost time after time due to unstable employment. God proved faithful and provided for all our needs.
This season taught me a lot about what type of work suits me best. Healing from the trauma I experienced will take time, but I know God will be with me through it all.
What can I learn from this?
If we compare the two perspectives, one thing is clear: This was a tough season. I don’t want to pretend that all was rosy because it wasn’t. I am learning that the words I use and what I choose to focus on are essential. This process has helped me see all of the good that I miss when I focus on perspective one.
Which side of the story do I want to live out?
I frequently ask myself this question. I have spent the last nineteen years processing this season’s events and working on healing. I am NOT pushing these emotions down or putting on rose-colored glasses. Now that I have spent time reflecting on this season, it’s time for me to move forward.
What is your next step?
Everyone’s journey is different, but I would encourage you to think about where you stand. Maybe it is time to find a counselor or pastor to help you process trauma or difficult emotions from past events. You could also go through this exercise and write about an event that brought you stress, frustration, fear, worry, shame, or another tough emotion. Whatever you choose, I would encourage you to surround yourself with a community of people who love and support you.
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