Worry Is A Liar

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Hello and welcome to The Overflow Podcast. My name
is Craig Booker. The title of this episode is Worry

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is a Liar. The material in this episode is inspired
by Winning the War on Worry by Louie Giglio.

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Note: I will talk a lot about mental health, but
please note this is not a substitute for therapy

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or mental health care. I am not a counselor or
physician if you need help with mental health

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challenges, please find a qualified mental health
professional. The title of this episode is Worry

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is a Liar. So, in this chapter, Louie starts
out by saying we’ve already established that

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the root of worry is fear. And fear doesn’t come
from God. Thus at the heart of worry is the devil.

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And scripture is clear that the devil is a liar
John 8 44 says when he lies he speaks his native

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language for he is a liar and the father of
Lies speaking of the enemy there Louis goes

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on to say to put it simply worry isn’t just a bad
habit worry is an enemy tactic a strategy built

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on lies that are designed to rob you of peace
and test your mind or interior mind to pieces

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Louis then goes on to talk about what he calls
the four lies of worry so we’ll quickly go cover

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them and then we’ll go into details so y1
is something really bad is going to happen

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like two is the more you worry about it the
better your odds of avoiding it lie three is I

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have no choice I’m a born Warrior and line life
four is I can control the outcome by worrying

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so we’ll start by talking about lie one which
is something really bad is going to happen

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and he talks about a study uh
he said as a 2019 study from

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Penn State showed that roughly 91 of the
things we worry about never even happen

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uh let’s see he goes on to say most of what you’re
spending time your time worrying about won’t

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happen you know I I think probably most of us
can relate to thinking this thought in some form

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um for my own journey I can remember like having
times where you know I was really just caught up

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in worry and fear and on a regular basis I would
think about things that haven’t even happened

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um like thinking about loved ones getting hurt
or losing loved ones and just those really what

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are kind of intrusive thoughts that came into my
mind and uh just really made overall my quality

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of life worse and so I can really relate that to
this section of worrying about things that hardly

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ever happen uh most of the things I struggled with
on a daily basis and continue to struggle with are

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things that will never ever happen uh and so
I think this is an important point is really

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to catch when we get into you know uh going to war
on these lies is really catching these thoughts of

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the the actual possibility or reality of these
things happen so lied to is the more you worry

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about it the better your odds of avoiding it
he says the enemy wants you to believe that

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if you worry or fret over a certain outcome long
enough you can keep something bad from happening

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I tell you so this is Matthew 6 25-26 and then
verse 34 it says I tell you do not worry about

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your life what you will eat or drink or about
your body what you’ll wear is not life more

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than food in the body more than clothes look at
the birds of the air they do not sow or reap or

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store away in Barns and yet your heavenly
father feeds them are you not much more

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valuable than they therefore do not worry about
tomorrow for tomorrow we’ll worry about itself

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so I I really agree what Louis is getting at here
this lie pointing out this lie um I know it’s not

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that simple for a lot of people I’m just telling
people that we shouldn’t worry or you know the

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Bible is very powerful I’m not denying that but
throwing Bible verses at people is not always the

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best solution uh because there are other elements
to their story that are feeding their worry

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so a lot of what I personally experienced was
I was reacting to trauma in my life in in past

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times and that was getting triggered you know as
I live and so it was not just the fact of worrying

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but I was dealing with a lot of the emotions
that came with those triggers from past trauma

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and so it it’s not quite as direct as what he
presents it but the truth is really valuable

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here so I don’t want to overlook the truth but
I also want to kind of counterbalance it and say

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it’s not always this easy but the truth it still
applies what I have noticed though recently is

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a shift when I start to feel more safe personally
it it’s a lot easier for me to live this out um

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and so sometimes I think uh it’s for a person is
getting to a place where they feel safe so the

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worry is not just you know running rampant
in their life just overtaking everything

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uh so there’s there’s a few different elements at
play I think there and then lie three is I have no

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choice I’m a born warrior in this part Louis opens
by telling a story about his parents and how they

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were big Warriors uh eight he talked about his dad
that his dad was just the king of warriors uh and

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he said this is a quote for many he said being 16
I was clueless about most of the way my parents

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were carrying but that night as I went to leave
our apartment and walked to a friend’s house he

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said speaking of his dad I’ve just had the worst
day of my life I need everyone to just stay in

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the house tonight uh then he goes on he says I
only fully understood this when I was older and

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I started having the same feelings I realized
that I too could easily tip toward feeling a

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dreadful outcome I would naturally obsess over the
question what’s the worst thing that could happen

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so in this part there are parts that I left out
there he tells the story about his parents and

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how they worried a lot and this particular
story he’s he kind of revealed to him that

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his dad was constantly worrying about
the kids uh when the kids would go out

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um every day and so this realization helped him
to see that every time he went you know every

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time Louie went out of the house his dad was
worried let’s see there’s second Corinthians

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5 17 it says if anyone is in Christ the new
creation has come the old is gone the new is here

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he says we may have a genetic tendency towards
worry and more powerfully we may have been

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weaned in a worrying culture worry is what we
saw others do worry as what we learned worry

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is what we are prone to repeat so he felt
this really big draw to be a warrior just

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like you know his parents were this really big
tendency and so what he’s getting out here is

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you know if you have accepted Jesus you’re
a new creation and we may lean towards or

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get drawn to be a person that worries but
if we’re in Christ we’re a new creation

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and it says if he goes on to say if you’re in
Christ all those old patterns were disrupted the

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instant you were born again you have a new Father
in Heaven he is never worried for a second in his

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eternal existence he wasn’t worried yesterday
nor is he today he will not be worried tomorrow

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lie number four I can control
the outcome by worrying

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he says you are not God while worrying wants you
to think you’re in the driver’s seat worry really

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locks you in the trunk of the car or in the boot
for my English-speaking friends outside the U.S

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uh Luke 12 25-26 says Jesus asked who of
You by worrying can add a single hour to

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your life think about that for a moment none of us

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none of us can add even a second to our day he
continued since you cannot do this very little

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thing why do you worry about the rest so it looks
in that section there’s kind of a mix of Louis

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talking as well as quoting scripture he goes on he
says peace comes by admitting that you’re not God

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he says I am not God therefore I am not in charge
I am not in control I don’t run the show I simply

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I’m simply part I’m simply a part of God’s plan
yet I know he loves me so I will trust and Obey

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he goes on to share this prayer of God I Repent
of trying to be you have your will and your way

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in my life uh he says worry tells you that you
are in charge but who wants that job anyway

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uh Faith tells you that the God who loves you
is in charge your maker is in control you can

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trust him and his ways are always good so
you know there’s this shift of realizing

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as people like in our world in our cultures
we’re often uh kind of directed to feel like

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we’re the captain or our own ship you know
there’s all this focus on self-improvement

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um or self-development all this focus on
self like we kind of live in a culture

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where everything’s focused on us uh that we can
make our own destiny there’s all these messages

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saying [Music] basically focused on us and
so that kind of crimes us to believe that

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that we can act as if we are God that we’re in
control so we have to worry about everything

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and this section I really like how he highlights
that there’s this Freedom that comes when we

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realize we’re not God that we’re not in charge and
we’re not in control but there’s this assurance

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that God is in control he loves us very much
and we never have to worry about what’s going

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on because we have a we serve a good God who again
loves us very much and wants the best for us again

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that doesn’t mean that bad things aren’t going to
happen but there’s just the shift in mentality I

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think that’s valuable there so uh the next part
he goes in to spot the lies and start the fight

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it says this is Romans 8 11 it says if the spirit
of him who raised Jesus from the dead is living

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in you he who raised Christ from the dead will
also give life to your mortal bodies because

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of his Spirit who lives in you Louis says keep
calling out the lies that worry us speaking and

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keep surrendering those lies to God replacing them
with the truths of his word I believe that if you

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commit and start down this path the spirit will
continue to empower you to fight the good fight

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Louis goes on to talk about kind of two different
concepts one is avoidance and what is assurance

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with worry this is there’s this focus on avoiding
anything and everything that causes discomfort uh

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Louis refers to this discomfort as hardship
he says the closer you stay to God and the

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more you call out the lies of worry the more
you’ll come to realize that avoidance isn’t the

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desired outcome of the Christian Life no the
goal of the life of the believer is assurance

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so we talked about Assurance he says Assurance is
what turns a what if into an even if through the

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truth of what is God is good loving kind Mighty
and power holy healer he is and because of that

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truth you can have Assurance no matter what
comes against you uh I wanted to talk about

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this concept of avoidance because it really
applies to more than just worry but it it

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really overlaps a lot of areas so with avoidance
whether you’re talking about worry whether you’re

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talking about fear anxiety most people when
they’re experiencing fear anxiety worry they

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want to avoid whatever it is that’s causing
that um and so that is kind of our natural

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tendency is to avoid pain and gravity gravitate
towards Comfort or pleasure and so the more that

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we avoid whatever it is that’s causing us
fear anxiety worry the worst that those

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things grow the greater your fear grows the the
greater the anxiety grows and it just kind of

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snowballs if you deal with fear or anxiety a
lot of the treatment for those is what they

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call exposure therapy exposure therapy is kind
of have kind of in a simple way it’s kind of like

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facing your fears it’s like small doses of facing
your fears and so by facing whatever it is that’s

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causing you those feelings the hope is that you’ll
kind of get desensitized to whatever it is uh that

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your body will adapt and so the fear and whatever
is holding you back will get less and I know

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that’s over simplification but this this concept
of avoidance is just really important uh because

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in my own Journey there’s a lot of things that I
chose to avoid because that means I didn’t have to

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feel those fear feelings of fear and anxiety and
what I learned is the more that I avoid them the

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worse that the fears grew and that began to take
over more part parts of my life I like this idea

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of avoidance and how he Compares it to assurance
and the shift of focusing on putting our trust in

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God so we have discussion for this chapter this
first question is are there any negative thoughts

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that you consistently find yourself coming
back to it says if so write those down below

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number two is which of the four lies
does worry speak to you most often

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number three was what are some practical tools
you can use to spot the lies of worry in your

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day-to-day life and number four is how can
you invite your community to help you spot

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the lies of worry in your life that’s all for
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