You In Ten

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Hello and welcome to The Overflow Podcast. My name
is Craig Booker. The title of this episode is You In Ten.

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A lot of the material for this week’s
episode was inspired by Craig Groechel’s book The Power

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to Change – Mastering the Habits That Matter Most.
Note: I will talk a lot about mental health, but

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please note this is not a substitute for therapy
or mental health care I am not a counselor or

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a physician if you need help with mental health
challenges please find a qualified mental health

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professional the title of this episode is you in

10. 10. in this section of the book Craig Rochelle

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starts off the book asking some questions so he
says what if you had met Elon Musk in 1995 when

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he left Stanford University to start his first
software company what if you met Simone biles

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when she was 14 years old and competing in her
first Classic Gymnastics event in her hometown

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of Houston Texas would you have been able to spot
something different in either of these examples

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of 10 plus years ago today these individuals are
very well known in their respective Fields but

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would you been able to ex to to spot something
different in them 10 years ago when they weren’t

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so well known he asked the question what if I told
you I could predict what your life would be like

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in 10 years what if I could tell you whether
you’ll be better off financially closer to God

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healthier more together than ever uh happier
or in a circle of good friends the life you

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are living right now is shaping the life you will
live tomorrow and that’s from Craig ochelle how

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like how is he he gonna figure this out and he
says because your habits today are telegraphing

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your future the life you are living right now
is shaping the life you will live tomorrow

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but we all have the best intentions but intentions
don’t determine Direction actions do we all have

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hopes but hopes for a different future doesn’t
lead to a different Future Hope doesn’t change

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your life habits do so if you keep doing
what you’ve been doing you’ll keep getting

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what you’ve been getting the life you’re living
today is shaping the life you’ll live tomorrow

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uh the life you want can be the life you’re
living in 10 years but you will not get there

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because of your intentions your hopes or a few
lucky breaks in this section of the book Craig

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Rochelle talks about like how he used to I think
how he used to view like famous people or people

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that were real well off and maybe that they just
got there because you know they were lucky or the

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right place at the right time maybe they had some
good connections either with family uh and so he’s

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really changed his perspective on how he views
successful people and that they get there because

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of their habits and so in this section he’s he’s
talking about he could predict like where these

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people could be or where certain people could
be by looking at their habits and their routines

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and so he goes into two what he calls two
essential components he says let’s focus on

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two essential components you’ll need to become the
you that you want to be and the first one that he

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speaks of is what we’ll call small and he says the
first component is small remember the Small Things

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no one sees can lead to the big results everyone
wants the issue with small things is that they’re

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so easy just to do or not do uh they never seem
significant uh ignoring or skipping them always

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feels acceptable but you sculpt your life with
the small stuff and then the second category

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that he talks about is consistent the second
component is consistent doing the small Thing

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Once is insignificant doing the right small things
over and over has a magnitude you cannot measure

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and there’s quote he says getting the life you
want will be the result of countless seemingly

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small decisions done consistently over time we
have these two pieces one being doing these small

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things and then the second part doing them
consistently uh this leads us to the story

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of Nehemiah and Nehemiah was the cut bearer
of artist Xerxes the King of Persia and the

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Babylonians invaded Jerusalem during Daniel’s
time and that was some 70 years before Nehemiah

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and the Babylonians destroyed the city and took
most of the people some Jews remained in Jerusalem

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and when Nehemiah heard how bad Jerusalem was
it it says in Nehemiah 1 4 that he sat down and

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wept it wrecked Nehemiah to hear the condition
of Jerusalem and so Nehemiah believed he could

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make a difference so he took responsibility
Nehemiah 1 4 it says for some days I’m mourned

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and fasted and prayed before the god of Heaven
Nehemiah began with prayer which is the right

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place to start when you don’t know what to do
go to the one who does Nehemiah was strategic

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and and getting permission from the King to
leave and rebuild to even go rebuild the wall

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and Nehemiah told the people of Jerusalem about
his plan like when he arrived there he he told

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him about this plan and he passionately convinced
them convinced the people they had to do something

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so he told this story uh of his plan and he
must have been a good speaker or at least

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pretty convincing and passionate about what
he wanted to achieve because he went about

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convincing people to help rebuild this wall and
so it says just as Nehemiah rebuilt the wall we

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will change our lives one small habit at a time
remember getting the life you want will be the

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result of countless seemingly small decisions done
consistently over time and that’s Craig Rochelle

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Nehemiah slowly built up momentum optimism began
to grow as well and much like Nehemiah faced

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resistance from sandalot and tobiah we will face
resistance you might hear Whispers when you’re

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trying to do something to change your life and
some of these Whispers might say like what are

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you doing will you really restore this part of
your life do you think you can accomplish this in

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a day that part of your life is dead you think you
can bring it back to life so you may hear these

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Whispers in your head of you know just doubt and
resistance you’re likely to find yourself at the

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same place it usually happens like this you begin
by defining your win you know we’ve talked about

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habits and the person we want to be and we did go
into details about defining what our win would be

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so you begin by defining your win you make some
progress and feel good about it and you realize

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you still have a long way to go there’s a good
chance after you make some Headway you’ll discover

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the journey is longer and harder than you first
imagine at this point you might think to yourself

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that you thought you would be further along by now
it will be tempting to quit here you know recently

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I I got to this point in my own personal journey
of trying to eat healthier and lose weight I had

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a goal of losing a certain amount of pounds and
I was right at halfway I was at 50 percent I had

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made it 50 to my goal and I was excited because
I had seen so much progress so I’ve seen this

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personally just you know currently what I’m doing
in the last week or so and so I really related

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to this statement of making it halfway and how
Nehemiah made it halfway about rebuilding the wall

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all right so uh

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you know you might get to this point where you’re
halfway there and think that you would think you

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would be further along by now and it’s really
tempting just to quit at this point halfway

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like Nehemiah when we get discouraged it’s
a sign that we need to go to God In Prayer

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it’s recognizing that we maybe don’t have the
power we need to complete and successfully

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uh do these habits over and over again we need
strength from the holy spirit so Nehemiah went

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to God In Prayer and Nehemiah knew a truth we
need to understand is we cannot consistently

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do the right things over the Long Haul in our own
power we need power that we don’t possess we need

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God’s power and here’s another huge Truth for us
to learn is we must value progress over Perfection

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you’re gonna trip you’re gonna mess up you’re
gonna fail your Journey won’t be perfect but

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keep moving in the right direction your goal
is not to be do this perfectly it’s progress

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so it says in Nehemiah 6 verse 15 New Living
Translation it says so on October 2nd the wall was

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finished just 52 days after they had begun or 140
years the people lived in danger without a wall

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and this change only took 52 days less than
two months Gregor shell poses the question

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again what strategic habit do you need to start
maybe this is spending 10 minutes a day in prayer

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maybe it’s limiting your time on Instagram the
30 minutes or less a day uh walking a mile after

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dinner each night writing three things you’re
thankful for in a gratitude Journal at the end

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of every day taking the first 10 minutes of each
day to prioritize and plan your time maybe it’s

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planning a weekly date with your spouse or kid
uh tithing to help you grow your trust in God

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that all of these habits are easy to do the
thing about strategic habits is that they’re

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easy to do and easy not to do knowing the
impact that your strategic habit might have

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on your life is essential to consistently doing
your habit we’ve got to realize the impact that

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these habits are going to have in the long
term in order for us to keep going it says

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for years psychologists told us that a habit
could be formed in just 21 days recent Studies

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have refuted that finding reporting that on for
the average person it takes 66 days to create

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a lasting habit so again asking the question
what habit do you need to strategically stop

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you know we’ve talked about starting habits but we
need we also need to look at habits that we’re we

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want to stop to become the person we’re trying to
become so maybe these this is using a credit card

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if you’re trying to get out of debt maybe it’s you
know you need to stop raising your voice and anger

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uh maybe you need to stop hanging out with friends
who have a negative influence on you watching a

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certain TV show spending money on things like
cable TV Netflix Starbucks eating up for lunch

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that keep you from paying off debt here’s what we
know each day the effect will seem inconsequential

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you may not see any difference at first but
change is happening you are changing your life

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we have an exercise this week and the start the
first question is what area of your life is not

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what it was or what it should be so we’re trying
to identify a particular part of our life that we

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want to change begin with prayer ask God to help
you develop a strategy list a few bricks you can

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focus on in the next few days to take small and
consistent steps so the idea here is to reflect

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on your life identify an area that you want to
improve go to God in prayer and then identify

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small steps or bricks that you can take in the
next few days that you can be consistent in

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all right we have we have a principal for this
week and it says we need a power we don’t possess

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we also need the value progress over perfection
Nehemiah 1 verses 5 and 6 says Lord the god of

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Heaven the great and awesome God who keeps this
Covenant of Love with those who love him and keep

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his Commandments let your ear be attentive and
your eyes open to hear the prayer your servant

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is praying before you day and night that’s all
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