I’m In Training

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Hello and welcome to The Overflow Podcast. My name
is Craig Booker. The title today is I’m in Training.

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A lot of the material for this week’s episode
was inspired by Craig Groeschel’s book The Power

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to Change the Habits That Matter Most.
Note: I will talk a lot about mental health but

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please note this is not a substitute for therapy
or mental health care I am not a counselor or

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a physician if you need help with mental health
challenges please find a qualified mental health

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professional last we were talking about strategic
habits start stop and pivot so we’re talking about

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making positive changes in our lives and that can
apply to a broad scope of things we are looking

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at this through the lens of mental health so
it’s a little bit more in depth and there’s

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a little bit more nuances where we have to stop
and and discuss because it’s a little bit I want

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to say more complex but there’s there’s different
things to consider when we’re looking at mental

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health and making positive changes there but that
the title today again is I’m in training to start

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off it says I’m winning because I’m in training
each time I do my habit I win so in Pastor Craig’s

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book he has a little bitty section that says what
are we going to do and we’re going to focus on who

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before do we know behavior modification doesn’t
work so we’re all about identity transformation

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Define our wins is number two we need
the direction of a goal to help us begin

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and number three is we’re going to train not
try we’ll Embrace a strategic habit and quit

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a habit we need to stop every day will live
disciplined lives by choosing what we want

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most over what we want now all right so it’s
a good summary of a lot of stuff we’ve talked

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about there’s a lot of detail behind that
but hopefully that gives you good overview

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um you know when when entrepreneurs or business
people are are talking about being successful

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in business often they’ll talk about inputs and
outcomes so these are business terms it’s probably

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used somewhere else that’s where I’ve heard it
used you know what are the inputs and to achieve

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the outcomes you’re wanting and if you look at
this the way that we’re looking at this your

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habit is your input and your goal is your outcome
and what we know is outcomes take time to realize

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those outcomes take time and so if we only focus
on those outcomes the work that we’re doing each

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day to try to get there it just seems really
grueling and hard and so this is more of like a

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perspective shift than anything when we’re looking
at inputs and outcomes each time we complete our

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habit we’re doing our inputs and we’re trying
to get to our outcomes we’ve taken the time to

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reflect and Define what our win looks like like
when we’re being successful what does that look

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like we’re looking at inputs and outcomes our our
habit is our input our goal is our outcome our

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outcomes take time to realize and if we you know
if we only focus on those outcomes winning is real

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far in the distance it can be really discouraging
it’s really easy to burn out and just lose sight

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of why you started completing your habit is your
win like when you make completing your habit

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your win you can win every every day this is what
Pastor Craig says right so each time we complete

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our habit we’re winning so it’s not just the goal
eventually we’ll get there our brains need this

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short-term win right we’re completing our habit
we’re winning that way you don’t have to wait

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weeks months or even years to win uh Pastor Craig
says I’m successful when I train today training

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may look different to each of you depending on
what your habit is but you can say I’m not trying

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I’m in training this is something he says all the
time and it’s not just on when he’s talking about

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this specific subject he’ll say I’m in training
you don’t say I’m trying to be a better husband

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I’m a husband in training and that’s okay I’m
a husband in training I’ve been married over 20

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years so I’m still in training so remember the
timing or Pace of all of this may not match up

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with your expectations they usually don’t I’ve
never had like a goal or something I’ve trying

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to achieve that just perfectly matched up with
what I had in mind and how long it would take

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to achieve it you know you might get knocked down
a few times along the way in fact I would expect

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that if you don’t get knocked down a few times
maybe your goal’s a little too easy uh so all

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you gotta do is pick yourself up dust yourself off
and keep doing your habit you fail today you don’t

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do your habit today what you need to do next is do
your habit the next day offer yourself some Grace

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yes you messed up you fell down right it’s okay
we’re not perfect it’s not about doing your habit

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perfectly this is about doing it consistently and
if we do our habit consistently we’ll eventually

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get to our goal with a big asterisk there of
saying that you’ve picked out the right habit

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right if you’ve done the work to pick out the
right strategic habit that’s gonna lead to your

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goal if you keep consistently doing that habit
you’re gonna get to your goal commonly happens

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is we get discouraged we get distracted and we
stop doing that habit it’s all about progress

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you’re not going to get to your goal overnight so
you have to see the short-term progress of doing

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your habit and celebrating that because that’s
a big deal like I said last week this is really

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hard and we’re asking you to change something that
you’re used to doing and you’re comfortable with

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really offer yourself ability and the freedom to
mess up and it’s just a matter of getting back up

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you know dusting yourself off and keep on going
and not losing sight of what you’re trying to do

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one thing that’s probably really important that
we do before we start down this path of trying to

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hit this goal is figuring out why we’re doing that
when times get tough and you’re really frustrated

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you’re tired you’re exhausted the easiest thing
for you to do is quit because that means that

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you no longer have to do whatever routine that
you’re doing short term it takes the pressure off

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but long term you’re going to have that pain of
regret when we get deep in the thick of doing our

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habit we need to be able to look back and clearly
understand why we started this if you can’t easily

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have like either a note on your phone or wherever
you want to keep it that remind reminds you of why

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you’re doing your strategic habit gonna be really
difficult to keep going so you need to have that

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somewhere really convenient when you forget why
you’re doing all this hard work you can quickly

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look at that and go oh yeah this this is the why
behind all the hard stuff I’m doing there’s an

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exercise that I put in here and I I said use the
goals and the habits that we identified the last

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episode of start stop and pivot to complete
these sentences I’m going to stop trying to

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blank by blank I’m starting my training by and
for each sentence create a statement to remind

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you about your training the example here is I
am not merely trying to get healthy I exercise

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regularly say no to sweets and go to bed early
because I am in training that’s an example of

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a statement this is just another layer of having
that that reason why so you know we do the work to

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come up with the details of our why and then we
also come up with this statement something that

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we can repeat over and over again because as we’re
doing this our brains need a reminder of this and

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this is positive affirmation to remind you of
this when you’re doubting yourself when you’re

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doubting what you’re doing so this is just an
exercise that you can go through again you’ll

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probably need to go back and if you haven’t done
the Strategic habits start stop and pivot exercise

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just go to the website also and you can find it
and the principle here is I’m not trying I’m in

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training right we’re reversing that mindset
we’re kind of flipping that on its head and

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saying I’m in training because the perspective
here is that I’m working towards a goal I’m

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being very intentional the Bible verse here is
first Timothy 4 8 in the New Living Translation

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it says physical training is good but training
for godliness is much better promising benefits

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in this life and in the life to come that’s all
for this episode thank you for watching if you

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