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hello and welcome back we’re living in
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an age where our energy is constantly
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being drained by our work by
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responsibilities and even by Leisure
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what if I told you that the secret to
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feeling more energized focused and
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connected isn’t about doing more but
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actually about doing less today we’re
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diving into the practice of solitude
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we’ll explore why are always on always
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connected world is actually making us
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feel more drained and isolated we at how
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to recognize when our life battery is
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running low and most importantly we’ll
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discuss how to recharge in a world that
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never seems to stop so whether you’re
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feeling overwhelmed whether you’re
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feeling burnt out or just curious about
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how to live more intentionally this
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episode is for you I want to start off
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by talking about limited human capacity
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now much like batteries humans have a
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limited supply of energy strength and
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resources
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now you may be saying Craig that is
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nothing new you’re not telling me
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anything you know novel revolutionary
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here and you’re right I’m not but what I
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want to highlight is that you know
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people in our society are feeling
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drained at levels like never before what
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we’ve seen is this is not sustainable
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you you’ve probably noticed a lot of
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talk about burnout and that’s for good
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reason and so there are some Modern
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contributing factors and I want to
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highlight those so let’s get started
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there so first off we have an increase
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in demands in our roles and our tasks
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two you know our our society is
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technology Rich meaning we have devices
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of all kinds that are always on and
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always connected so whether we’re at
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home or we’re on the go whether we’re in
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a car a bus a train or a plane we are
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always connected and third with the rise
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of social media this has led to actually
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more isolation and not more connection
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so all these factors lead us to an
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increased need for the practice of
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solitude all right I want to talk about
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three different terms and that is
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withdrawal Solitude and loneliness so
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let’s start off with withdrawal this is
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where Deborah feda tends to focus in her
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book is on withdrawal so let’s start
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there she talks about withdrawal as
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taking time to recharge as in getting
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adequate sleep maybe taking breaks from
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work your responsibilities technology or
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social media uh it’s also allowing your
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mind body and soul to recover and this
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could be through practicing a Sabbath
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rest and all of these methods serve to
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restore our capacity to live and love
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well but they also come with some
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negative connotations so let me explain
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so this term withdrawal for a lot of
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people this may mean something different
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than it does to other people so
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withdrawal May mean weaning off a
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substance or a medication it may mean
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unhealthy coping mechanisms and so for
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this reason I like to highlight Solitude
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Deborah feta says that Solitude is the
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deliberate Act of being by yourself
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giving yourself a chance to think to
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feel and to fill up so with these terms
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when you’re thinking of withdrawal or
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solitude some people might tend to
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confuse them with loneliness so let’s
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talk about loneliness for a second
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Deborah flatus says that loneliness on
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the other hand is a state of mind a
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feeling of Disconnect from the people
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around you that leaves you feeling
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drained and isolated in the end okay you
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may be saying Craig this is great I love
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learning about this new stuff but what
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are the benefits what is this going to
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do for me so let’s go over those first
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off it’s going to give us increased
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energy and focus two it’s going to
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reduce our stress and help prevent
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burnout third it’s going to provide us
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with more selfawareness
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and fourth it’s going to deepen our
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relationships so this is going to be
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twofold so first it’s going to deepen
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our relationship with God if we’re
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practicing Solitude we’re we’re spending
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time alone with God either listening for
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him to speak or us talking to him at
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prayer maybe spending time time
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reflecting on God’s word it’s going to
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deepen our relationship with God two
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it’s going to deepen our relationship
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with others you know if you paid
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attention to the first three benefits if
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we’re more energetic and focused when we
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talk to other people we’re going to be
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able to love them better and they’re
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also going to notice that we’re paying
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attention so I like that in friends like
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when they’re focused and they pay
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attention when I talk to them so that’s
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going to be great so two it’s going to
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result in us being less stressed and
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less likely to burn out so we’re going
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to be better at not only whatever we do
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for work but we’re going to be a better
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friend we’re going to be a better wife
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or husband uh third we’re going to have
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more self-awareness so you know more
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self-awareness is going to help us be a
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better person we’re going to be able to
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see some of our strengths we’re going to
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be able to see our weaknesses and be
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able to work on those so it’s going to
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help us with both God and other people
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and then last we’re going to be living
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with purpose and not depletion now in
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her book reset I believe it’s in
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chapters maybe 23 or 24 Deborah feta
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talks about living from God’s fullness
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rather than living from self-
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emptiness so that’s what I’m thinking
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here on this last point now if you’ve
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been following my channel very long or
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listening to my podcast very long you
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know that if possible I like to take
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things things back to either scripture
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or more specifically the life of Jesus
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so that’s what we’re going to do here
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first off Jesus would often go off by
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himself to desolate places to pray so we
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see this in Mark chap 1 verse
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35 of the NLT it says before Daybreak
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the next morning Jesus got up and went
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out to an isolated place to pray all
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right next we see that we would see him
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resting and charging we saw this in Mark
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6:31 of the NLT it says then Jesus said
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let’s go off by ourselves to a quiet
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place and rest a while he said this
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because there were so many people coming
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and going that Jesus and his Apostles
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didn’t have time to
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eat we also saw throughout the Bible
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Jesus’s
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practice or Jesus observing Sabbath or
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Sabbath rest all right verse for
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reflection this is Luke 516 and it says
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Jesus often withdrew to lonely places
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and prayed let’s review uh first off we
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explored wi always on always connected
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world is actually making us feel more
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drained and isolated second we discussed
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how to recognize when our life’s battery
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is running on low and most importantly
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we learned how to recharge in a world
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that never seems to stop
