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do you ever wonder why you keep falling
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into the same old traps believe it or
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not the answer might be hiding Right In
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Plain Sight hey everybody and welcome
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back today we’re diving into a powerful
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tool that can revolutionize your
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personal growth Journey it’s all about
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identifying the hidden obstacles that
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are sabotaging your progress so let’s
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get started in this episode we will
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discuss the importance of understanding
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your obstacles we’ll explore the common
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misconceptions around the healing
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process and we will break down the halt
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acronym and other obstacles that tend to
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get in our way so whether you’re
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struggling with bad habits trying to
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reach a goal or want to improve your
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overall well-being this video is for you
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what is holding you back when you look
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at the areas that you want to change in
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your life what are the barriers that
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tend to get in your way when do you tend
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to fail the most and why you see the key
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to making real progress lies in your
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curiosity your willingness to ask
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questions and to look into the finer
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details of what leads to your failure
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the healing process you see the healing
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process comes with some common
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misconceptions and if you think about it
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it makes sense because depending on what
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you’re healing from that process is
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going to look different the process of
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recover recovery for a broken leg will
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look different from the common cult one
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of the common misconceptions that we
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make is that we treat healing from brain
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health as a linear process meaning we
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have a start and a finish that is direct
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another misconception or mistake that we
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make is we trait we treat brain health
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like the common cold you see we’ve all
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been to that place before we’ve been
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there a time or two where we get a cold
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and we go to the doctor
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when the doctor comes in they may ask us
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about our condition they may perform a
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few tests take some blood and then
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generally they’ll write us a
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prescription we take that prescription
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to the pharmacy they give us our
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medication and we may take that
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medication for like 7 to 14 days and by
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the time that we finish that
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medication most of the time we’re well
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you see in her book reset Deborah fetus
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says that instead of the process being
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linear the process of healing is
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actually cyclical meaning it is more
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like one step forward three steps back a
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few steps forward it is more like trial
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and
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error the halt acronym which stands for
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Hungry angry lonely and tired the
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successful 12-step recovery group
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Alcoholics Anonymous teaches their
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members an ACC acronym to help their
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people know their enemies or to know
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their obstacles the first letter in the
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acronym is H for
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hungry now I don’t know about you but
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this will often cause irritability in
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myself it will cause mood swings I’ve
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seen it cause poor decision making it’s
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such a thing that they’ve actually
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phrased a term combining hungry and
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angry
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and you’ve probably heard it it’s called
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hangry the next letter is a for angry
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and anger will often cause questionable
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decisions that lead to
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regret anger will suppress our ability
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to think clearly anger will often
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trigger the fight or flight
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response now what’s interesting about
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anger is that there are often other
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emotions behind the anger such as fear
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hurt insecurity or shame continuing on
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with the halt acronym we have L for
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lonely loneliness will often cause
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people to feel like they’re lacking
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support and Care from others it will
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cause them to feel desperate leading to
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unhealthy
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decisions some examples of those are
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excessive time on social media which in
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turn make them feel worse
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it will lead to unhealthy relationships
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to Affairs to unhealthy substance use to
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pornography to shopping gambling Etc
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last in the acronym is T for tired now
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tired I I don’t know about you but being
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tired often I will see that it impedes
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my both my moral judgment and my
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decisionmaking it makes it difficult to
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distinguish between healthy and
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unhealthy
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decisions the SBR acronym in her book
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recet Deborah feda talks about an
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acronym that she adds on to the halt
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acronym and the SBR acronym stands for
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sick bored or
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reward s for sick when we are sick we
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tend to make poor abnormal decisions
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that we normally wouldn’t make
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and something that you’ve probably seen
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I certainly have is if you’ve ever gone
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to the doctor or had a procedure done
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like a major procedure often they will
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say that you shouldn’t make big
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life-altering decisions for a certain
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number of hours and this is why next up
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is B for bored when people are bored we
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do some weird
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things uh this often causes people to
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overeat to misuse substances and make
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poor choices choices maybe you’ve been
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there uh you’re watching your favorite
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show you’re watching a favorite movie or
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a new movie and and you want something
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to munch on and so you will often eat
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something even though that you’re not
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hungry next up is R for reward so where
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this Behavior comes in is when people
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use a negative or harmful Behavior as a
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reward this often will cause people to
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overeat Mis use substances and make poor
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choices so an example of this is maybe a
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person has had a really tough day or
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tough week and they feel like they
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deserve their favorite treat maybe a
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person has had a really great day or a
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really great week and they want to
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celebrate so they justify doing a
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certain negative or harmful Behavior as
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the reward in this exercise we are going
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to identify our obstacles
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in the first part you’re going to need a
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piece of paper or you’re going to need
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to open up the notes app on your phone
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we’re going to map out our day from
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beginning to end all of our activities
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during the day and we’re going to note
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the time of day for any unwanted
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Behavior decisions or
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activities we’re going to describe any
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observations that we make as we’re doing
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this we’re going to list them out we’re
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going to give it a description like
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what’s going on whatever you notice and
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we’re going to list any particular times
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that we’re more vulnerable than others
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so that’s part one part two is of the
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obstacles that you listed which tend to
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sabotage your growth and your goals and
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then three part A is you may need
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another piece of paper for this or you
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may need to make some extra space in
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your notes and we’re going to write out
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the acronym halt SB are and Part B of
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this is for each letter we’re going to
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create an action plan and we’re going to
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pay special attention to the areas that
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we struggle with some examples of action
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plans for this is for H hungry if you
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struggle with getting hungry which
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causes you to make some questionable
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decisions we’re going to keep a snack
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with us we’re going to pay special
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attention not to go more than 3 hours
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without eating and then another example
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would be R for reward we’re going to
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plan out Healthy Rewards when we hit a
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certain Milestone if we have a great day
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if we have a great week we’re going to
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have a healthy option to reward
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ourselves verse for
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reflection there is now no condemnation
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for those who are in Christ Jesus Romans
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81 all right let’s review what we’ve
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learned in this episode we
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discussed the importance of
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understanding our obstacles we broke
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down the halt acronym and other
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obstacles that tend to get in our way
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and we explore the common misconceptions
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around the healing process so whether
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you’re struggling with bad habits trying
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to reach a goal or want to improve your
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overall well-being we hope that this
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video has been helpful for you
